Praying together is an area we’re still working to get better at. It’s easy to just “forget” to do it, but as you prepare to step into marriage, this is a discipline that will guide your relationship, your decisions, and your intimacy as a couple.Before you start, it's important to remember that prayer makes you (and your partner) vulnerable. With that in mind, here are some "ground rules" as you start praying together:
Now that those are out of the way... here's how you pray together:
We typically alternate who starts. If this is your first time praying together, determine who will take the lead and who will finish.
You’ll have some of the “common” prayers together (pray for the wedding, pray for the marriage, etc), but this is a great opportunity to understand your future spouse’s wants and needs and selflessly pray for those things.
This is a little cheesy, but you can follow the “A.C.T.S.” Model of prayer when you start. First, you pray with adoration (“God are you so good”), then confess your own sins and shortcomings (“God please forgive me for not loving others as I should”), then thank Him (“God thank you for your provision and grace”), and finally, ask for supplication (“God we ask you to bless our marriage”). This simple pattern will allow you to pray with confidence.
The A.C.T.S. Model of Prayer:
A - Adoration
C - Confession
T - Thanksgiving
S - Supplication
Use the ACTS model mentioned above, pray for your spouse‘s needs, and say amen. Seriously, it’s that easy.
It might be a little awkward at first, and that’s totally fine. Prayer takes practice. The more you do it, the better you’ll get.