Preparing for marriage is an exciting time, filled with dreams about your future together. It’s important to have thoughtful conversations with your future wife about the things that matter most to both of you. These 40 questions will help you explore each other's expectations, values, and goals, ensuring a strong foundation for your future marriage.
- What does a fulfilling marriage look like to you?
- How do you prefer to communicate, especially when we disagree?
- What are your spiritual or faith-based beliefs, and how do you want them to shape our marriage?
- How do you envision us handling conflict when it arises?
- What are your thoughts on managing finances—will we combine or separate accounts?
- How do you feel about budgeting and saving, and what financial goals do you have for our future?
- What role do you think extended family, including in-laws, should play in our marriage?
- How do you see us balancing work, family, and personal interests?
- How do you prefer to be shown love—through words, actions, gifts, time, or physical affection?
- What are your thoughts on starting a family, and when do you think would be the right time?
- How many children would you like to have, and what are your views on raising them?
- How important is physical intimacy to you, and what are your expectations for keeping that connection strong?
- What does quality time look like for you, and how do you want us to prioritize time together?
- What are your career goals, and how do you see them impacting our life together?
- How do you feel about dividing household responsibilities and chores?
- What are your expectations for how we will celebrate holidays and special occasions?
- What boundaries do you think we should set to protect our marriage from outside influences?
- How do you handle stress, and what can I do to support you when you're going through tough times?
- What does forgiveness mean to you, and how do you handle being hurt?
- How can we support each other’s personal growth while growing together as a couple?
- How do you envision us keeping romance alive after years of marriage?
- What are your thoughts on relocating or making big life changes for career or family reasons?
- How do you feel about continuing friendships and maintaining individual hobbies after marriage?
- What’s one thing you believe we should prioritize in our marriage to keep it strong?
- How do you think we can make time for each other, even during busy seasons of life?
- What is your biggest fear when it comes to marriage, and how can we address that together?
- How important is it for us to have shared goals and dreams for the future?
- What role do you think faith or spirituality should play in our decision-making as a couple?
- How do you envision us supporting each other’s careers and personal ambitions?
- What are your views on handling major life changes, like illness or financial challenges, together?
- How do you think we should handle disagreements about finances or spending priorities?
- What traditions would you like us to establish as a family?
- How do you think we can maintain a healthy balance between work, family, and our relationship?
- What does trust mean to you, and what do you think we can do to build and maintain it in our marriage?
- How do you feel about raising children, and what values do you think are most important to teach them?
- What do you believe is the key to a long-lasting and happy marriage?
- How do you think we can support each other in our faith journeys and spiritual growth?
- What does self-care look like for you, and how can I help support your health and well-being?
- What sacrifices are you willing to make for the sake of our marriage, and what do you expect from me in return?
- How do you envision our life together in 10 years, and what steps do we need to take to get there?
Building a strong marriage starts with honest, open communication. These questions will help you and your future wife align your expectations, strengthen your bond, and prepare for a lifetime of partnership.
Want to explore even deeper topics before you get married? Check out our online premarital course, where we cover essential issues like communication, intimacy, faith, conflict, finances, and more.
